4 Ways to Set Clear Expectations

Whose job is it to make sure you are understood?

4 Ways to Set Clear Expectations

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 If nothing else, be clear. – David Arrington
Several weeks ago I was conducting an all-day leadership course for an organization. As we were working through an exercise designed to help participants set and communicate clear expectations, one member the group shared that his team contained two highly capable individuals who couldn’t work together. Unheard of, I know right?

With his permission, I led the group as we helped him first clarify his own expectations for his non-cooperative team members. His first draft highlighted the bigger problem, his expectation was that  “they worked together because they are adults.” He followed that up with a request for them to work out their differences “ASAP.”

Clear? Nope. Actionable? LOL. Measurable? Not really. What becomes readily evident is that we often confuse brevity with clarity .

His lack of clarity was unintentionally perpetuating a difficult team environment. This type of confusion leads to missed deadlines, frustration, and us just doing the work we didn’t take the time to explain clearly enough. Influential leaders work hard to ensure that they are clearly understood by the people they work with and for. 

We often undermine our best intentions by falling prey to three common communication assumptions. First, we assume we are making ourselves clear, second we assume that we were understood, finally we assume it’s the other person’s job to understand and interpret what we are saying and what we expect of them.

It’s your Responsibility to be clear

As a leader, it’s your job to think through the outcomes and understand what you need your teammates to provide. If you take the extra 15 minutes to consider what you need and how they can best assist in realizing that goal you will save yourself countless hours of frustration. Don’t expect your people to interpret your shorthand emails, cryptic conversations, and cubicle flybys effectively.The onus is on you to be as clear as possible when you communicate.

Understand what you want

You cannot set clear expectations if the outcome is still unclear to you. Half-baked ideas lead to poor communication, unclear expectations, and your eventual misplaced frustration. Misplaced because you will most likely be frustrated with the person who gave you what you didn’t ask for when you should be frustrated with your lack of clarity at the outset. 

Ask them what they heard

One of the simplest ways to know what someone heard is to ask them. Just ask open-ended wrap-up questions that help them restate what their action items are following the meeting. Clarify deadlines, details, and any concerns they may have.

Make time to communicate

Asking people to do things for you as you pass in the hallway or through cryptic short e-mails is a recipe for frustration. If it’s important enough to require their time then it should be important enough to schedule a 15-minute meeting to make sure you’re on the same page.

How important do you think setting clear expectations is and do you have any tricks I missed? I would love to hear from you. Leave a comment below. 

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Dr. David Arrington

David a husband, father and the principal of Arrington Coaching. He and his team work with leaders, teams, organizations, and entrepreneurs. He regularly speaks and writes on leadership development, team alignment, and peak performance. He can be reached at David@Arringtoncoaching.com

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2 comments
  • Donje June 14, 2017 at 8:27 am

    I like to follow up a conversation or meeting with a written recap of important goals and dates so that any confusion or miscommunication is resolved. I often find that the recap brings forth questions that didn’t come up in the conversation and sometimes allows a deeper understanding of expectations. Meeting first and then recapping second is vital to communication, as receiving an email without direction sometimes confuses people and also is less important to them because they get hundreds of emails.

    • David Arrington June 14, 2017 at 11:21 am

      Donje,

      Thanks for commenting. Great idea. Often the writing process makes us more deliberate in choosing our words and clarifying our thoughts. Writing a recap is a great way to ensure everyone is on the same page.

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